Wedding etiquette isn’t the same as it was 20 years ago, and neither are the very weddings themselves. From living together before you’re married to wearing a color other than white and registering for a honeymoon instead of new plates, a lot has changed. However, there are some things that will always stay the same. Here are four time-honored pieces of wedding etiquette that our experts know aren’t going anywhere.
More than just saying “please” and “thank you” and writing your thank-you notes on time, being gracious is a state of mind that you should carry throughout your wedding day. Be kind and pleasant as you work with your vendors or deal with your bridal party, be warm and welcoming as your guests arrive, and be polite, positive, and courteous. It may be your big day, but by acknowledging and appreciating what others have done to make it happen, you’ll stick in their minds as a bride for the books, not a bridezilla for the gossip mill.
Celebrate Within Your Means
Money is a touchy subject, and it can become emotionally charged when it comes to your wedding. Whether you are paying for your celebration yourself or have received a gift from a family member to cover the costs, be acutely aware of how much you have to spend—and don’t go beyond that amount. There is no need to go into debt for your wedding. Your celebration will be special and beautiful no matter what you’re paying for it.
It’s easy to get caught up in the to-do lists and the whirlwind timeline of a wedding, but don’t let that prevent you from really taking in this once-in-a-lifetime experience. Enjoy every moment, step back and really see all the people who have gathered to celebrate with you, and don’t forget to kiss your new spouse!
No matter how big or small your wedding is, do your best to have every detail accounted for before the day arrives. Your guests may not notice the hairspray in the bathroom or the sprig of lavender on each napkin, but they will appreciate the seamless flow, personal touches, and a calm bride who knows her vendors have it all under control!